Why Couples Counselling?
Relationships can go through difficult times, for all sorts of reasons. Sometimes issues can be resolved without any extra help. However, if you are finding it difficult to sort things out on your own, you may decide to get some professional help by way of couples counselling.
In relationships we can sometimes get stuck in negative repetitive patterns or cycles of behaving, thinking and feeling where our interaction with each other undermines communication and we can feel disconnected from each other. There can be many different pressures, perhaps work, money, sex, infidelity, parenting differences or maybe anxiety or depression that can start to take their toll on the relationship. Resentments can build, you may feel taken for granted or just think the relationship has gone stale, that you have grown apart or lost your connection.
Perhaps communication has broken down, or maybe you are feeling unheard, or finding that you are arguing more regularly. You may be feeling misunderstood, or alone. As an Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist I work with you to understand the patterns or cycle that you have got into and to facilitate openhearted conversations, which can help you get the support you need towards making change.
Understandably you may feel daunted going to a counsellor together. You might be addressing issues that are uncomfortable to talk about. Whatever is troubling you, I will work collaboratively with you and meet you with understanding, compassion and without judgement.
Whatever your sexual orientation, marital status or background, my responsibility is to the relationship. You will have the opportunity to explore how you are feeling, to have a safe space to talk and listen to each other and be supported in developing a deeper understanding and connection with each other, finding a better way forward.
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy is an evidence-based approach, which has been extensively researched over the last 25 years, with a substantial body of research supporting its effectiveness. Studies find that 70%- 75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvement in marital satisfaction.